The rain is more than enough…for your grass and mine


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We often wonder why the rain falls on both sides of the divide.

We are completely happy when it falls on our side because it helps to keep our grass very green and lush. The rain also provides the cool and comfort we so need.

Though we have not formed the rain, we gladly enjoy its benefits. We look across our neighbour’s picket fence and initially, all we see is the scorching sun and we are secretly glad that we have all the rain on our side.

Then the weather changes unexpectedly, the cloud moves partly to the other side of the fence; the cloud now covers a huge part of the sun and brings much needed relief to your neighbour (The same comfort you have thus far enjoyed).

The rain cloud now sits nicely between the fence covering both houses and watering the grass on both sides but that suddenly seems to bring up a problem.  Why has the cloud moved we complain?



Why do I have to share “my” cloud with my neighbour we ask?

My grass will no longer have sufficient amount of rain to make it as green as I desire we whisper.

Then, finally and unexpectedly, we burst out with the truth; I want “my” rain cloud all to myself!!!

We have neither formed the cloud nor the rain yet, we are saddened that it provides comfort to all at different times.

The rain is neither “yours” nor “mine” but is more than enough to water the grass on both sides without compromising on the lushness of your grass.

Matthew 5:45 – that you may be children of your Father in heaven. He causes his sun to rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the righteous and the unrighteous.


If we could see the future, we will treat the present very differently


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He knows your name, before you were formed, he knew you and before you were born, he set you apart.

God has a path set for each and every one of us. Your days are numbered and set in his plans, and his thoughts towards you are thoughts of good and not of evil to bring you to an expected end.

He has every tear you have ever cried in a bottle, he knows every situation by name, he has great detail on every problem you are facing and will ever encounter.

He is not silent, but working; working behind the scenes that he might bring you to that expected end he has promised.

He is not a man, he is incapable of lying, so if he has said something to you, believe him and hold-on because faithful is he that has promised. Has he said it? He will surely bring it to pass.

Are you feeling discouraged? Encourage yourself in the Lord and trust in his word.

Are you feeling cheated? He will restore to you the years that have been stolen, every single bit of it.

Do you feel alone? The Lord is always by your side and always willing to speak with you, so talk to him. Show love to someone else and you will be surprised how much love you will get back in return.

Are you afraid? He is right there with you through every situation and every incident. When you pass through the waters, he is with you, when you walk through the fire, you will not be burned.

He is God all by himself. He does not need any extra help to save you and he has the master plan.

Before you were even formed, he knew this day would come and he went ahead of you to prepare a way. It might not feel like it now but a few days, weeks, months or even years from now, you will look back and say, I wished I had worried a bit less, I wish I enjoyed the journey more, I wish I took more time to prepare myself for where God was taking me to.

If we could see the future, we will treat the present very differently.

Though the journey may be tough, bumpy and stressful today, be at peace with it.  Be anxious for nothing and pray about everything. Don’t get wrapped up in your own world and miss out on the great opportunities ahead of you or even right there beside you.

Push your way through the trash, learn from your mistakes, hold-on to the gold in the experience, and throw away the dirt.

Be good and respectful to people through it all, you have no idea where life is taking you.

Make better use of your time. Cherish your peace and guard your heart with all diligence.

Treat the present like you can physically see the future that awaits you and prepare for it accordingly.


If the world wasn’t watching, what will you be doing?


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I have often wondered to myself what I will be doing if I did not care so much about what the world thought or will think about it.

I have always imagined the extent to which these boundaries determine my actions or inactions, and what I could eventually go-on to become within or outside the restrains of those boundaries. Will I reach for greater heights? Will I eventually realise that my opinions, ideas and dreams were valid after all? Or will I let the boundaries stop me?

I guess my real question is, what will you say, do or act-on if it wasn’t based on someone else’s perspective of your decision?

  1. Will you accept that job offer even if it means a pay-cut or a less glamorous industry however, you know deep within you that this is what you have always wanted to do, and it will help actualise your life-long dream or at least, get you a step closer?
  2. Will you go back to school even though most people feel that you are a bit too old and should be doing something better with yourself?
  3. Will you talk about the things that really matter to you and express yourself freely about the burden in your heart, even though you might be considered weird, out of touch, or just plain different?
  4. Will you stay in that unhealthy relationship because it is believed that you cannot do better than that, while you know deep down in your heart you need to leave?
  5. Will you finally put pen to paper and write that book? Yes, people say the book market is saturated already but your thoughts are unique and surely, you can create a niche!!!
  6. Will you start that business you always wanted to run even though people might think “yeah, another day, another attempting entrepreneur”?
  7. Will you spend your time, money and effort giving back to the society even though it might be considered an absolute waste of time?
  8. Will you stay firm, focused, and committed to that vision even though everyone else says it is over before it even begins?
  9. Will you allow yourself to be different; love yourself warts and all even though the world tries to sell you perfection as the route to happiness?
  10. Will you let yourself raise your family the way you have always imagined even though the world tags it the old-fashioned or uncool way?
  11. Will you let yourself just breathe a little in the comfort of your own home regardless of the noise on the outside: the competition, the new neighbours, colleagues, bosses, friends & foes?
  12. Can you free yourself of all these limitations and experience the sort of future that awaits you?
  13. Will you simply just allow yourself to breathe?

What will you be doing if the world wasn’t watching?

Psalm 16:11: You make known to me the path of life; you will fill me with joy in your presence, with eternal pleasures at your right hand.

The lingering hope


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Waiting and longing for something you desperately want, need or believe you should have is not fun. To put it simply, it sometimes hurts to wait!

It almost feels like a cycle; you start to wait in hope, time goes by and your expectation lingers.  Sometimes, it begins to look like your hope may not be helping much and perhaps, you settle into a feeling of disappointment and then suddenly, something happens that shines a bit of light into that situation and you want to hang onto that light for as long as you can. At that point, it feels like your only source of optimism.  Then slowly, the light begins to fade and hope now sounds like it is calling your name from a very far distance. You were so sure things were about to turn-around for the better but it feels like it has slipped away yet again.

Some days, your smile will be as bright as the sun because hope just whispered to you that the change you so desperately seek is closer than you think. On other days, you just cannot see past the now and perhaps, you feel like the world is working against you.

Again, you remember that all you have to hold onto is hope albeit with a little more caution and a little bit of fear this time because you remember so freshly how it felt when it seemed like hope had let you down.

Your ability to see through to the other side, past your current experiences, the bleakness and the uncertainty, all depend on how hard you are willing to hang-on.

The struggle persists particularly because hope seems vague. It gives us no timelines, no end date, no traffic light signals of stop, prepare and go, neither does it say when the situation will change. Hope just says, hold onto me!

It can be very hard to hold onto hope however, it is what keeps you going. The question nonetheless is, who is your hope in? What is His track record? Is it one of success? How powerful is He? How trustworthy is He?

The strength of your hope is in the power of what is backing it up.

So where is your hope and who is backing you up?

Jeremiah 29:11For I know the plans I have for you, declares the LORD, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.

Numbers 23:19 – God is not man, that he should lie, or a son of man, that he should change his mind. Has he said, and will he not do it? Or has he spoken, and will he not fulfil it?

Gratitude vs. Ingratitude – Will you let the tiny light in?


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The act of ingratitude is something that creeps up on us slowly; it comes gradually and unnoticed. First, it starts with a few grumbles about our dislike for our current state, then the voice gets a little bit louder and we complain about almost everything and perhaps, the role others have played in it, and then gradually, we fall into an advanced “state of entitlement” for what you believe you should be getting but are not.

In that state, your view might just be a little blurry.  You fail to see the good (no matter how little) in the situation, you refuse to learn the lessons, and you are unable to reflect on the situation objectively.

Expressing gratitude is a choice. It is a conscious decision that has to be made and at every intersection, you will be faced with two options;

  • Be grateful for the small ray of sunshine that pierces its way through the darkness; or
  • Be ungrateful for the entire situation.

As you get on with life, choose an expression that gives life; choose gratitude and be thankful.

Be thankful for the ray of light in the dark room, the small tree that protects you partially from the extremely hot sun, the annoying little car that still gets you to work, and the frustrating job that still helps you pay your bills.

Be thankful, express it, live it…

Whose boat are you in?


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Jesus walks on water

I am riding in my own boat, full of confidence in who I am and where I am going. I am sure that I have all that it takes and I am almost certain that I have it all figured out.

I am completely fearless until the waves begin to crash against the boat, the wind tossing the boat back and forth, with the boat shaking forcefully. At this point, I know I can no longer stay in my own boat, especially with all of my self-confidence now failing.

As the man in the other boat calls out to me, I try very hard to keep him in my focus. At first I am successful, I get out of my boat and begin to walk on water towards him without anxiety. I am being called by the one who knows my name. I am unafraid and eager to make the next move, I find myself making good progress.

All of a sudden, I begin to allow the noise in the waves get the better of me, I begin to allow the whistle in the boisterous wind put fear in me. I begin to lose focus of the one who is calling out to me and I imagine that the waves are bigger than He is. Then, just as quickly as I started walking on water, I began to sink.

The voices in my head kept calling out my name. They reminded me of all the wrong I have done, justifying why I do not deserve to be saved. They reminded me of my pride, my lies, my wayward ways, my past, my present and whispered to me that I will never make it.

Every now and again, I catch a glimpse of the man in His boat gently calling out to me. At every point at which I set my eyes on Him, light shines into my almost bleak situation and I see a ray of hope but the minute I stop focusing on Him, the waves come hitting harder again.

Finally, I realise that I need to be focused on the one who is calling out to me to make it to the other side. It dawns on me that I need to be in His boat and not mine.

If they could see your scars, will they see you?


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Growing up as a child, I completely disliked playing rough, I would always try to ensure that I played without running or jumping to avoid getting any scars and if I did, I will hope and pray hard that they disappeared as quickly as they came.

I was successful for the most part in my pursuit for a scar free body until one fateful day, I decided to ride a bicycle on gravel at a family friend’s house and there it was after falling off the bicycle, a cut on my knee that required a pair of scissors, bandages, and antiseptics. I can barely see the scar now, but I have the memories of me falling off that bicycle, crying and wishing it never happened, especially because I had tried so hard to be careful.

As we grow older however, we carry different types of scars arising from experiences, actions or inactions, interactions, what someone said or did not say, what someone did or did not do, death of a loved one, illness, a lost job, a general loss of direction or purpose in life, family struggles, abuse in one form or the other, rejection, sadness, depression, divorce, hopelessness and perhaps, a general dampening in the zeal for life.

Although these scars are not visible, they have a way of shaping us in one form or the other; it could be a change in the way we view or interact with people, a decline in our trust in God, a shift in the way we open ourselves up to people, a desire not to live, a contemplation to harm oneself and the list goes on.

While scars are as a result of events that might have happened in the past or as a result of something you are currently going through, if not properly handled or revisited, can lead to dire consequences. So while people looking in from the outside cannot necessarily see your scars, don’t leave them unattended. They do not disappear as quickly as they have appeared. Sometimes, it lingers on and can cause greater harm in the future than in the present.

You don’t have to wear your scars around on a sleeve, permitting it to take control of you or allowing it to define who you are and who you could be.

Ride on the waves of your experiences and become a better you through it all!

If they could see your scars, will they see you?

Psalm 34:18 – The Lord is close to the broken-hearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.

Isaiah 41:10 – Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God, I will strengthen you, I will help you,  I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.

Who are YOU?


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In today’s world, people seem to have a perfect idea of who you are and who they want you to be; they sometimes have it all planned out for you and imaginably, even appear to know what is best for you.  

The question however, remains, who do you really want to be? Or should I be asking, who are you inspired to be?

You might be thinking “you have no idea how hard I have tried to get there and how many times I have failed trying”.

Well, if you are asking this question, you are definitely not alone but the fact that you have not given up on your dreams or your goals expresses the fact that you are a fighter and will get through to the end alright if only you keep trying.

Words like perseverance, hard-work, patience, endurance, keep-pushing, and diligence don’t sound very exciting. Life however, is a very long trip; one filled with the known and the unknown. Regardless, a path that needs to be walked and experienced through strength, faith, love, and endurance.

In the midst of this journey, the puzzle might only partially make sense now and you might become nervous or even upset and imagine that the easiest way to go is the route of less-resistance; abandon all your plans and follow the crowd, just go with the flow you might say. “I can never lose out thinking like everyone and doing the same thing as everybody else you might begin to imagine and even believe”.

Well, the more you become like everyone else, the less of you there is to give to the world. The smaller the opportunity to display that special gift God has deposited in you, that very gift for which the world has been awaiting a manifestation.

The more of other people we see in you, the less of you there is to see. So be you, do you, fight for who you are, what you stand for, what you believe in and who you are inspired to be.

 Be blessed.




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According to my personal dictionary, fear is that feeling that comes upon you, overwhelms you and holds you back from doing something you desperately want to do or feel like you should be doing.

It is having a goal you want to achieve; you cannot live with yourself if you choose not to go ahead with it, however, you keep holding back!

I have never understood the concept of fear until now. I always imagined it was something that could be easily wished away with a magic wand perhaps.

Fear holds us in a harder grip as a result of past experiences. We dislike to relive the past, we cannot imagine failing at another attempt, we cannot visualise hitting another road block; we cannot imagine coming face-to-face with yet another barrier that seems immovable.

Fear is however, just a concept in our minds and the first step to overcoming fear is realising it is what it is.  “An idea in my head that was created by the power of my mind”

Once you can get past the notion that it is simply a mind created concept that has been developed as a result of past experiences, assumptions, facts, ideas, etc., you can gradually begin to get yourself out of it.

Do not let fear stop you from being who you are meant to be or achieving that very purpose you set out to accomplish. Picture yourself succeeding at it, and the strength to counter the voice of fear in your head with the positive will be just around the corner.

Jump the hurdle in your mind, push back the brick walls, and say no to fear!

For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.


I am divergent!


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There is something about the world finding superiority in being able to fit us into neatly defined boxes with tags labelled Sanguine, Phlegmatic, Choleric, and Melancholic…

The world then begins to define you through these ingenious set of characteristics that they believe you possess based on the personality type that has been handed to you.

Every action taken is explained by the fact that you are Sanguine or Phlegmatic, even when the behaviour trait does not necessarily fit perfectly into that box. “But oh, that must be the reason he acts so weird they will say; I should have known better”.

Now, it starts to get interesting when the world meets people they cannot fit into any of their well-organised boxes. They try so hard to find a perfect fit and when they find none, they choose to give you one anyway but then, you choose not to follow the known path; you choose to break free from the standard!

The minds already ruled by these set boxes, however, cannot comprehend the divergent nature of your very being.

You are not defined by a particular character or one event but by numerous deviating characters that make you who you are.

You are kind, you are confident yet can be humble, you are brave yet can be timid, you are reserved yet can be fun-loving, you are able to communicate with the most privileged yet the less privileged love you just the same, you are strong yet you have areas of weaknesses, you are outspoken, you can stand up for the rights of others, you are intelligent, you can be loud yet insightful, you can be awkward yet interesting, and you are so much more than the world can take-in.

You are everything you can be and there is still so much more the world is yet to discover about you.

You are divergent, not weird, and you rock!

As we get into a new year, accept who you are, be comfortable in your skin and defy the neatly defined boxes if you must!

I am divergent, I stand for many things, and I do not fit in a box.

Happy New Year!!!


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